My Own Shields

I also had to build shields. Some are clear, some are not; in Second Life, I use different avatars to shield myself from unwanted propositions. If I look like I normally do, like a voluptuous woman, I usually get all kinds of propositions, even when I don’t want to engage romantically. I got myself an avatar that is less suggestive –a shield. It has worked so far. When I wear it, I’m not approached to go on dates. The last time I was a woman, I was asked for a walk in the forest and to spend time near a waterfall. Then I was asked to cuddle and kiss. I did. After some time, Curtis –I will call him Curtis – was interested in getting to know me, and I was open to share all I could. Then the conversation became very personal. I revealed myself, and since then, no more dates with Curtis for me. Here is how the exchange went:

me: so now, what other things about my RL do u want to know
me: dont u think there's so much to know about each other that we dont know
Curtis: loads!
Curtis: ask whatever u want
Curtis: ur a woman u must have hundreds of questions lol
Curtis: come on stop typing then deleting lol
me: i do...do all women ask lots of questions
Curtis: of course its in their nature lol
me: so, what is it that u like about women then? besides the obvious of course
Curtis: lol thats gotta be the hardest question ever!
Curtis: theres lots to like and lots not to like, but at the end of the day we all need companionship, wether ur straight or gay, in my case im straight so its a woman
me: do u know gay people?
Curtis: no gays in my circle of friends at the moment but have known plenty, huge gay community in london
me: of course, what a dumb question
me: i love this song..i think this is so romantic
Curtis: surprised u know it, didnt realise paul young made it in the us
me: of course...are we listening the same tune "every time u go away"
Curtis: yes, paul young
Curtis: he had green hair when he did this, no idea why i remember that lol
me: so, how would u feel about dating a transexual woman
Curtis: never really given it much thought, u r transexual?
me: not really
Curtis: not really? yes or no r the only possible answers lol
me: well, remember when we met, and I told u I was studying behaviors in SL
Curtis: yes
me: so, i am trying to see how people react to transexuals
Curtis: an old mate of mine lived with one for years, we wasnt supposed to know but did, so i dont find them shocking and want to run away lol
Curtis: on the other hand i wouldnt see any future with one personally so wouldnt get involved
me: because, you think that they are not really like a woman
me: whats different
Curtis: diff as in they have no womb and cant ovulate or have kids
me: so, whats more important for u is to have children
Curtis: not sure i do personally, but would like the option, im not getting any younger!
me: couldnt u adopt?
Curtis: true, but its still diff from a woman who was born a woman but cant have kids for medical reasons
me: yes, i guess u want to have ur own kids
me: i mean ur genes…
Curtis: i would prefer that, but would never rule out adoption if my future mrs couldnt have them, or if i cant, ive never tried!